Today I want to be "blunt"!
Is it a fact that most of us tend to believe that the relationship they are in is a healthy relationship, but the fact is that many are not. If you want to stop pretending and truly have a wonderful, loving, respectful relationship, then look over this list of tips that can help you achieve that goal.
1. We all feel the temptation to 'put our best foot forward' and while that isn't a bad thing, it's very easy to take it too far and not really be who you truly are. It's one thing to use your best manners, but it's another to pretend you like something that you don't really like.
When you project a false image of who you really are, you are just setting yourself up for disappointment. You will either have to maintain that phony persona forever, or you will eventually have to let your partner see the real you.
Either way it's not a good situation to be in. Be yourself. You have to have confidence in who you are and if you aren't confident enough to be yourself, you should hold off dating until you can work on yourself for a while first.
One of the basic cornerstones of a solid relationship is when both of you accept the other person just as they are. If your partner is constantly trying to make you someone else, why would you waste your time? Let them go off and find their perfect someone and you do the same. If they truly love you, then they'll truly love and accept you and all that you are...good and bad.
3. There is a saying that opposites attract, and that can be true, to a point. The fact of the matter is that while someone who is very different from you might seem exciting and unique at first, over a long time that 'uniqueness' can grow very old.
If you and your partner don't agree on the core things, then you are likely to have a very rocky relationship. The two of you don't have to agree on everything, as long as you're both mature enough to respect each other's opinions. However it is crucial that you should have similar core values. For instance, religious beliefs, beliefs about fidelity, desire to have children or not, what you consider right and wrong, etc. If your core values are not in sync, then you will have a hard time seeing each others' point of view. This will only lead to disagreements and of fights.
Many people waste their time trying to make a bad relationship work, when they could have been spending that time in a fun, loving, respectful, healthy relationship. It is after all, not about finding someone who is perfect, it's about finding someone who is perfect for you. Thus, it is definitely worth the while taking a little bit more time getting to know a person before starting a relationship.
