Monday, March 22, 2010

Communication is the key to any good relationship....

Today I came across an intriguing article with the title, "How Can I Save A Bad Relationship"? 

I got a little confused when I read that. I pondered, and wondered why would anyone want to save a bad relationship that brings more misery than joy. Instead, why not improve the relationship and make it good?  If both parties in the relationship expressed a wish to improve things, and are willing to commit and work on it, wouldn't that be better? In this scenario, you are not saving a rotten bad relationship; in fact, you'll be turning a bad relationship around and make it great!  Isn't that a zillion times better?!

Now, how do we do that?  Hmm...let me pen down my 2 cents....

1. Honesty and Maturity!

First in the list, I think what we need is total honestly and high level maturity.

Let's face it, nobody can escape the ups and downs in relationships. With that in mind, we need two mature people to be able to have real heart-to-heart discussions about the root of the problems. If both are honest and mature enough to accept responsibility for  their part of the problems, then there will be a really good chance that your relationship will grow deeper and stronger.

2. Crucial to Find Ways to Communication.

Once the two of you have decided that you are willing to try, the next thing you must do is to find better ways to communicate. More often than not, in many relationships, one party gets upset and yells at the other person; who will in turn just shut off and tune out their partner. The situation worsens over time, nobody wins and both of you gets miserable.  

3. True Communication Is Needed.

Now, what exactly is true communication?