by Brian Tubbs, Feb 9, 2008. Suite 101.com
If you feel trapped in a troubled marriage or buried in marriage problems, this article is for you. While it won't save your marriage, it may provide you with enough tips to point you in the right direction. By putting these tips into practice, your marriage can be on the road to recovery and reconciliation.
Decide to Love Your Spouse
Decide to Love Your Spouse
This may seem basic, but the first thing you must do in a troubled marriage is to love your spouse. Don't feel like you're in love anymore? You feel like your marriage problems have caused you fall out of love? Well, then, love your spouse anyway.
Christian author and marriage counselor Gary Smalley declares: "Love is not an emotion, love is not a feeling, love is not happen-stance. Love is a decision!" This isn't to say that such a decision will further trap you in a loveless marriage. On the contrary, it positions your marriage to kindle the feelings you crave. Feelings will follow your decisions and actions.
Christian author and marriage counselor Gary Smalley declares: "Love is not an emotion, love is not a feeling, love is not happen-stance. Love is a decision!" This isn't to say that such a decision will further trap you in a loveless marriage. On the contrary, it positions your marriage to kindle the feelings you crave. Feelings will follow your decisions and actions.
Forgive Your Spouse
This may be the hardest step, but it's critical to salvaging a troubled relationship. Do you feel that your spouse has neglected you or hurt you? If so, you must forgive him or her.
